Have you ever noticed how much you and your girlfriends talk about food, losing weight, or how much you need to 'fix' some part of your body?If you're not the one bringing up the conversation, I bet you know someone else who does.
A few months ago, I was in Starbucks and I overheard a 20-minute conversation between 2 women about all the ways they were desperately seeking weight loss solutions? Yes, I WAS eavesdropping, but they were sitting right next to me and I knew it would make a great blog post.
Anyway, one woman couldn't understand why she wasn't losing weight. She'd been to the doctor and all her tests came back negative...NOTHING was wrong with her, but she was still searching for an answer. "Maybe if I cut out ketchup and only eat sugar-free Jell-O for dessert, I can lose the weight."
It was EXHAUSTING to listen to. I could FEEL the frustration and desperation.
It reminded me of how much I used to sit and talk (sometimes for hours) with the same girlfriends about the same 10 pounds I needed to lose. Or about how I was planning to avoid carbs this week. Or about how I just bought a dress 2 sizes too small with hopes to fit into it in the next month.
The truth is, that I hear conversations like this ALL the time...between women I know and those I don't know.
When you're chatting with your girlfriends, and the topic of what everyone is or isn't eating this week comes up, how do you feel? Do you get a little anxious or even panic-stricken...like "Oh my God! Should I stop eating ketchup too???". My friend Kim told me she had to remove herself from a certain circle of friends because the weight-loss conversations were making her feel like a FAILURE.
If you feel like you're failing at eating or losing weight when you talk to your friends, or all you ever talk about is how to lose weight, then please KEEP READING.
So, you might be thinking, "These are just words...harmless conversations" or "This is what women do...we talk about our weight".
First, words have power. If you subject yourself to these conversations about deprivation and fixing yourself, the belief that you don't deserve to have what you want becomes intricately woven into the fabric of who you are.
Second, this MAY be what many women do, but it's not representative of what we're capable of...AT ALL. We talk about weight (ours or someone else's) and the food we need to avoid for the next 6 weeks (or forever) like it's our JOB.
I don't know about you, but I haven't received any paychecks from talking about how fat my arms are. So, I stopped talking about them.
Honestly, I think it's time for a NEW conversation.
Constantly talking about how we need to spend more time and money to shrink ourselves doesn't yield the weight-loss or happiness we think it will...plus, it gets very BORING after a while, doesn't it?
There are so many other topics we could be discussing: discovering our passion, ways to solve the world's problems, or who's going to win the election this year.
ANYTHING OTHER THAN LOSING WEIGHT.
Here's a challenge for you:
- Notice how much you and your friends talk about weight loss and how you FEEL during those conversations. Don't judge yourself or them...just get curious.
- If you find yourself discussing your weight on a regular basis, make a daily practice of talking about something else when you're around your friends.
You have the power to literally change the conversation.
It's my mission to help you.
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