How many times have you heard those words come out of your mouth or from the voices in your head?? "I should eat better", "I should exercise more", "I should be a size 6", "I should've lost these 20 pounds already", "I should be farther along in my career", blah, blah, blah.
If these statements sounds familiar to you, then you're probably getting caught up in your own "should storm".
You know what I'm talking about: negative thoughts, overwhelm, and bad feelings about being a "failure" or not being good enough. It's the kind of thing you try to cure by doing the exact opposite of what you think "should be" doing (like eating a ton of sugar, for example.)
Think about it: if you believe that you should be eating healthier, exercising more, and getting more sleep but it never happens, there's something deeper going on.
Something that a meal plan, a diet, or workout DVD will NOT solve.
There's a reason you're not experiencing what you want and the reason lives inside of YOU. However, sitting around and analyzing the WHY doesn't help...it just causes more negativity and more of "being in your head".
When I feel a should storm brewing, I take action quickly. I hate for my day to be taken over by a raging sea of "I should…" statements. So, I take a few deep breaths and ask myself the following questions:
1. How do you wanted to FEEL right now? This is a way to get OUT of my head and more connected with a feeling in my body.
2. How is this should storm contributing to the good feelings you want to experience? Ummmmmm, its not, so it's time to move on to something better.
It's all about getting back to the present moment. Why? Because when "I should be (insert expectation)" surfaces, it's because I'm somewhere else, either in the future or past, instead of right here...in the present moment.
Here's the thing: coming out of a should storm is not easy. It actually takes some work on your part, a little self-reflection, and stillness (get out of your head!!). The first step is to recognize when you're in it.
How about you? Have you been drowning in a sea of "I should be" lately? Just leave a comment below and tell me how you get yourself out of a "should storm".