How many times have you fallen for a wellness guru’s promises of “eat like me, workout like me, look like me”, only to discover that their food and fitness routine make you miserable?
You’re not alone. These days there are people (qualified and NOT) hogging up your social media feed and email inbox with messages telling you that, if you just follow their “system” you’ll get the body of your dreams.
When you discover that you couldn't stick to their plan for more than 2 weeks, you start a new hunt.
Women who've been through this cycle a few dozen times often ask me: “Do you eat clean? Are you gluten-free? You don’t eat sugar, do you?”
I happily tell them that I eat whatever I want, and that includes gluten AND sugar. They usually walk away disappointed because they were looking for me to hand over the recipe to my secret sauce.
Well, here it is: The secret is that there is no secret.
FACT: trying to replicate every aspect of someone else's life is impossible AND unsustainable.
That’s why it’s never worked for you.
If it doesn’t work, WHY do you keep searching?
The reason you and millions of other women are still hoping that someone else will finally reveal the answer you've been looking for is because you're afraid you can’t trust yourself.
You're afraid to step out and do something outside of the usual diet mindset because you’ve been programmed to believe that you will FAIL.
But if you've done all the meal plans, diets and detoxes and they haven't worked, doing another one probably won't work either.
That's why the right way is YOUR way. It takes time, it's not easy, but it IS possible.
Here's what you can do to find it:
1. Let go: Unsubscribe, unfollow, unfriend people who try to convince you that there's only ONE path to health and fitness and, surprise, surprise, it just happens to be THEIR way. You have to clear out the clutter and quiet the external voices to make room for your own discovery.
2. Tune in to YOU: This may be the hardest step. We all have a built-in GPS that guides us, but after after decades of being told what’s good and bad, you can't even hear it. Every second you spend looking outside yourself for the answer, you slowly chisel away at your ability to hear your inner voice. The good news is that it’s still there…it’s your job to listen to it.
3. Grant permission: Allow yourself to experiment with eating and exercising in a way that feels good to you and makes you happy. YOU have to figure out what that is. I can’t tell you, but I can definitely help facilitate the process.
4. Observe, don't obsess: Pay attention to what foods taste good and make you feel the way you want to feel. This observation is NOT about obsessively measuring food, counting calories and carbs, or hopping on the scale twice a day.
5. Be compassionate and patient: I can't emphasize this enough. If you think that beating yourself up along the way will give you better, faster results, think again. Hating yourself thin hasn't worked for you yet and it won't work this time.
I've spent 25 years in a cycle of chronic dissatisfaction and obsessive self-improvement. It's taken me 3 years of intentional work to get where I am today. This process takes time.
You are worthy of the FREEDOM that comes from creating your own path.
When you do what works for you, you don't have to worry about the rules.
Now it's your turn: What are you going to do this week to start discovering the way that works for YOU? Tell me in the comments below!