We're surrounded by images and messages that keep us constantly distracted by what's wrong with our bodies and the multitude of solutions to fix it.
To accept and eventually LOVE your own body can seem like pure fantasy.
Let's be real: there is no diet, detox, or cleanse that will help you address the years of body hate and the food drama that comes along for the ride.
They're part of the problem...not the solution.
If you don't believe me, the next time someone tries to sell you a solution to your weight problem (and it's conveniently packaged in a pill, powder, or plastic wrap) ask them about the part of the program that works on your mindset. Or the part that teaches you how to trust yourself around food.
Be ready to hear a chorus of crickets because it doesn't exist.
I'm convinced that there IS a way out of this body image mess, but it's deeper than your weight or body fat percentage.
I know there's an alternative to the usual quick-fixes that fail you each and every time.
But before we get to that, here are 5 reasons that it can feel impossible to create a lasting peaceful relationship with your body and with food:
1. You keep believing the hype. If you've emotionally and financially bought in to the message that a smaller size is the most important thing a woman can be, you're not alone. The $60 billion diet industry thrives on your belief that you can't be happy, lovable, or beautiful until your dress size is in the single-digits. Oh, and of course they have a nice little 1200-calorie diet and workout plan to help you get there.
2. You avoid feeling uncomfortable. When sadness, anxiety, and fear come up, food steps in and saves the day....or does it? Using large amounts of food to cope with negative feelings usually leads to guilt, followed by "getting back on track" with a restrictive meal plan (a.k.a. diet). NUMB. GUILT. RESTRICT. And the cycle continues.
3. You believe self-criticism is an effective form of motivation. You think that if you hate and punish yourself hard enough, the weight will just start falling off. I have one question: How's that working out for you?
4. You're trying to live up to an unattainable beauty standard. The lifelong quest to look like someone else will keep you forever disconnected from your true self.
5. You've been doing this alone. This is a collective problem that can best be solved when we work on it together. The wisdom of other women is an overlooked and untapped resource.
The good news is that there's something you can do make body confidence less of a fantasy and more of a reality.
And no, it's not a quick fix or a 3-step system.
My personal and professional experience have taught me that you must do the work.
If you don't work to change your mindset and your daily habits, it will be almost impossible to escape the cycle of hate, chronic unsuccessful weight loss, and out-of-control eating.
So I've created something to get you started.
It's called The Body Confidence Manifesto and it's a short guide of 5 power practices designed to help you change your mindset and your habits (2 things that fad diets completely ignore).
Click on the link below to get your copy.
Not everyone is ready to do this work, and that's ok.
But if you are ready (or close to being ready), take the leap and try something different.