"I CAN'T KEEP DOING THIS"
This is usually what I hear from women who are ready to give up...give up the dream that weight loss will bring happiness, love, and success.
If you're like many women, you've unconsciously accepted the idea that indefinitely pursuing weight loss was normal.
And it makes sense, right? It's the message we've been getting for all of our lives. The idea that a smaller body is a better body is EVERYWHERE.
Now you may be at the point, or very close to it, where the love affair with wanting to lose weight is over.
It's done. You're done.
But how can you be sure that it's time to give dieting the big middle finger and leave it behind forever?
Despite the fact that the weight loss industry still thrives off our misery and oppression, there are plenty of us who have opted out and vowed to never look back.
When women finally give up the dream of weight loss it's usually because:
THEY DON'T WANT TO WASTE ANY MORE TIME
A few years ago, I suspected that there was more to life than trying to suppress my weight by controlling my food...and putting my life on hold in the process. There are too many of us waiting until we drop a few dress sizes to do important, meaningful things in life.
You know all those career/business opportunities, beach vacations, and pictures that you missed out on because you wanted the weight to come off first? You can never get that time back. I'm not saying that to make you feel bad. It's just a reminder that time is not a renewable resource.
Weight loss fatigue is real. Mental and emotional exhaustion from following rules about what to eat, when to eat and how many minutes to exercise leaves little energy to do anything else. It's hard to enjoy life when the conversation in your head is being dominated by your meal prep and workout schedule.
Women are tired of waking up on Monday morning hoping to climb back on the wagon, but deep down knowing they'll probably end up back where they started.
THEY RECOGNIZE THAT IT'S ALL A LIE ANYWAY
We've been conned by our toxic diet culture into believing that we should always be trying to lose weight. I was convinced that I could have the life of my dreams as soon as I achieved the body of my dreams. It didn't quite work out that way.
A meaningful life does NOT occur by way of controlling the size of your body.
Let's be real: you and I both know there's no pot of gold at the end of the weight loss rainbow. The only thing waiting for you is a rusty bucket of false hope and broken promises.
It's liberating to finally see dieting for the mindless, life-sucking ploy it is.
You may not be 100% sure that now is the time to let it go, but even if there's a little inkling in the back of your mind, pay attention to it.
Giving up the dream of thin-ness (and all that we believe comes along with it) is HARD. But it's possible.
If you need support during this transition, here are some trusted coaches and therapists that you can contact: