Self-worth... it's your sense of value as a person. It means to be deserving of effort, attention or respect.
If you've been looking for it in a number on the scale or the food on your plate, you've been looking in the wrong place, my dear.
But you're not silly, crazy, or wrong if your worth is all tangled up in your weight. And you're definitely not alone.
You (and I) are the product of a thin-obsessed, fat-phobic diet culture where a woman's body is her currency.
For years, I thought my worth was hiding in a pair of size 2 skinny jeans. I believed that my value as a human being was directly proportional to the size of my thighs. I was certain that if I could just lose enough weight, I'd finally be worthy love and happiness.
I was dead WRONG.
It turns out I didn't have to hustle and earn my worthiness because it doesn't exist outside of me.
We don't have to work for it, buy it, or take it from someone else. You and I are worthy simply because we exist. Worthiness comes with being human.
Unfortunately, for many women, our bodies (and the food we eat) have become so intertwined with our value, that it's almost impossible to distinguish one from the other.
Here's the truth: Weight is an inaccurate measure of worth. It's WRONG and we should stop using it because it's what keeps you in a constant wild goose chase for a smaller self.
And that's no way to live.
I hate to break it to you, but the pursuit of smallness will not sustain you.
It will not enlighten you, enliven you, or make you a better person.
It will only take you further and further away from your authentic self. I guarantee it.
The wool has been removed from my eyes and now I see clearly. I want you to see that it IS possible to untangle your weight from your worth.
Here are a few things you can do to get started:
1. Be Aware: Do you attach your worth to your size, weight, or food choices? Do you feel like you only deserve kindness when you've been "good" ? If the answer to those questions is 'YES', go immediately to #2.
2. Do a Detox: Unsubscribe from, unfollow, delete any and all newsletters, social media pages, and magazines that reinforce the MYTH that you're only worthy when you're at certain weight. TODAY.
3. Go Deep: Ask yourself "What do I want my life to look like? What contributions can I make to the world?". These questions can help you go beneath the superficial layer of physical appearance and explore yourself.
4. Be Compassionate: Notice when you start to judge yourself or other people based on body size or food choices. Change the conversation in your head and remember that we are ALL worthy and we don't have to do anything to earn it.
For the past 3 years, my mission has been to help women live incredible lives without having to change their bodies to do it.
Before I sign off, I need you to know:
There is a purpose for your existence. I want you to discover it.